The courage to approach these delicate situations with compassion and care requires dedication, humility and vulnerability for each person involved. When it comes to sexuality, it’s important we understand that much of our patterned sexual behavior is based on our first and earliest sexual experiences.

To dig into the conditioned mind is to unwind the ways in which we try to control and plan every aspect of our lives, and instead learn to surrender and sink into befriending the unknown. The practice takes discipline, self-acceptance, trusted allies, and humility.

There are times in life when we are maxed out, brain-fogged, and spinning like a top with anxiety. This is the grit of being a primal animal wired with safety and threat signals. We share a universal, basic need to belong and to know we’re loved and that we matter. Any threat to these basic needs can cause stress and overwhelm.

The book “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman, is one of many avenues to begin this exploration. He suggests there are five areas in which emotional intimacy is built. Emotional intimacy also deepens when there is a rupture, which is inevitable in authentic relationships, but we stay in the care and connection between us to repair.

When couples begin to domesticate often the erotic charge can shift and sequence through diminishing cycles. And what can also happen is that differences in communication, attachment styles, and emotional availability can fog our sexual desire channel too.

I recently took a significant professional (and personal) leap when I launched my new business, Your Erotic Nature. I’m passionate about this because I know what becomes possible when we know how to access our creative life force of erotic aliveness.

To be fully in touch with our “self” is a dynamic and ever-evolving journey. There is no end point to self-discovery and embodiment. The system in which we create and operate in with our partners, and all the people in our lives, is a manifestation of how we operate within ourselves.

For much of my life, I was caught in the web of what I call ‘The Self-Improvement Campaign’. This ‘campaign’ is the false notion that somehow we are deficient. Therefore, in order to be happy, successful, and belong we have to constantly improve ourselves.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship (romantic, work-related or friendship) that didn’t match what you desire in partnership, hoping that it would change because you saw the potential? What happens when we fall in love with the ‘potential’ of someone and forget to pay attention to the reality of the relationship dynamic?

We are in a pivotal time of awakening, change, and growth on this planet. This is the time to reclaim your power, integrity, and authentic sexual expression. Unlocking the cage starts with being aware of the beliefs, thoughts, emotional patterns, and behaviors that create shame or “stuckness.”

If your path was anything like mine, you’ve likely encountered a series of trapdoors and confusing messages along the way. Living in our modern-day culture means we’ve all experienced some degree of repression of our vibrant erotic nature and sexual desire. Here is a few highlights from my journey of losing and reclaiming my sexual-erotic power.

The following is the story of my journey, including the teachers who have initiated me and reminded me of who I am. I am deeply grateful for the power of their love, presence, and wisdom. Challenges and obstacles are often the medicine that initiates growth and transformation.

Today, let’s go into some practical guidance and exercises you can go into at home to deep your own experience of embodied sexuality.

We all hope to experience pleasure and nourishing connection with our lovers. But many of us aren’t taught how to set boundaries, ask for what we desire, or track and attune to our internal experience (or our partner’s). Embodied sexuality is the full expression of your sexuality through your senses, mind, fantasies, heart, and presence of being.

As primal creatures, we are bound to be reactive. So how can we develop presence, leadership, and deeply fulfilling intimate relationships when we’re innately equipped with animalistic wiring?

What does it mean to be an integrated human? The process is a deep inquiry into how our multi-faceted systems are both organized towards expressing our authentic self and away from this towards ideas of who we think we should, could, or ought to be.

Anger is something that everyone experiences, at one level or another, and it needs to be expressed to maintain emotional health and intimacy. Most people have a murky relationship with anger and how to express it in a way that isn’t hurtful to oneself or others.

How does the journey of wild salmon reflect the path of living an authentic life? The journey of the salmon is one of the most amazing phenomena in nature. How is it that after years in the sea, they can locate the exact stream in which they were born, and pursue their upstream return home?

Much of what we’ve been taught to value points us outside of ourselves and increases a sense of feeling separate and alone. If we can’t force a system to change then what can we find inside of ourselves that carries us through the storm of collective change? How can leaders challenge the old paradigm and support a collaborative and wisdom-oriented approach towards effective change?

When we embrace the view that our shadows are as significant as our joy and passion we are on a different journey than the traditional one of ‘avoid feeling and exploring your fear, create illusions of control, and pretend to be what you think is acceptable’. Opening into and witnessing what is present in our experience is the entry point to a path of deepening into an authentic relationship with ourselves and all of life.